hello to all and especially you, Tig. I almost wrote to you back when I first heard the episode where you discussed the passing of your mom, as it hit me very hard (my mom died on April 26th, the day after my 52nd birthday). Given this week's heart-wrenching topic, I felt the time was now.
thank you, Tig, for helping me to feel a little less alone in my grief. people around us do their best to console us and tell us that they know how we must feel. and bless them for their well-intended words, but unless they're starting each and every day with the thought 'oh, my God, she's never coming back', then, no...they really can't know how it must feel. but it is true that Time heals all wounds. I just wish Time would fast forward to the point where I'm not sobbing like a lost child every time I let myself think about her.
So, since you helped me, dear girl, allow me to return the favour by offering my two cents; should the diagnosis prove dismal, get second and even maybe third professional opinions, don't allow your mind to trick you into thinking bullshit thoughts about how this is somehow a 'punishment' for bad behaviour, and, above all else, handle your business, ie., see a lawyer about a will if you haven't already. Then, do the things you've always wanted to do, go to the places you've always wanted to go to, and be sure to tell your loved ones all you've wanted to say to them.
some may say that such advice is depressing or pessimistic. I say these are the things that we, flawed and mortal as we may be, can control and have a say in that which transpires.
I wish you all the best, Tig, and be kind to yourself. you've earned it.
